*cough* Nah, it just made me more sneaky and creative, what were they going to do, strip search me? Do you want to be with someone who never likes you for you? But I have vivid memories of having take-out chinese one night, then reheated leftovers the next, with soup from the freezer a third night, back in the day. You know your boyfriend and your own situation better than we do, so I trust you to figure out who and what you are dealing with and take steps to care for yourself. Third, I think some disaster preparedness is good self-care for you. The first few times you resist his help, I think he is going to release the Logick Kraken, who will logically and patiently recount all of the ways that you could be better if you only tried harder. At first eagerly, because I was curious. Some men prefer to chase women rather than being in a relationship with them. Its more complicated when mental illness is involved, especially when youre legitimately working on improving yourself everything about yourself (and your relationships) feels like something you can work hard and improve, and if it doesnt happen it feels like a personal failing. The Silent Treatment is a HUGE red flag for me. That's the last thing you should do. Also the related ones of oh, everyone feels like that [i.e. Thats their job, not yours., I once dated a guy who was really, really into strength training. My partner and I love the ideas of self improvement, but as with most folks, we often talk more about it than do it. I cant leave my house very much. Something that I tried with my own Helper from several years ago I took him with me to a therapist appointment. Belittling my feelings. As someone wisely said much upthread, this choice doesnt directly effect me, so it is not my business. They are what they are, and you cant force someone to evolve. Your boyfriend probably can't see any reason to change his ways: he believes that taking drugs has done him no harm and he enjoys the experience. They write because stuff is horrible and awful and they cant work out how to fix it (without breaking up). I love you anyway is, in practice, almost nothing like I love you. He is really good with computers and accounting. I had a sudden and first time episode of pretty bad depression after being with my husband for 5+ years. Im in therapy to recover and get to a place where I think that Im good enough & love and trust myself again (after years growing up having that constantly undermined), and therapy has been going very well. His comfort may depend on your discomfort and misery. And hey, staying in bed, amiright? Beloved Human is very into self-improvement, and that has sometimes inflected the way he talks to me about it. He wants me to exercise more, eat healthier, help out more with the cleaning, and take better care of myself. I have two of those exes and there my collection ends! Hell either stop talking, or hell go into a bluster-storm of What did you just say? He picked being my boyfriend and shut the hell up when we were in the gym. What are some of the relationship killers that might have led him to this point? Ive seen this shaming from the peanut gallery even in dating relationships. (snort) Sounds like Mr/Ms Relationships Take Work! had filtered that phrase through the English-to-Jerklanguage translator and was interpreting it along the lines of Relationships take work, so I can totally expect Commander Banana to work on not minding about the money zie owes me never being paid back, and am hence absolved of having to do any of the work of becoming the sort of person who actually pays loans back., I wrote in to CA a little under a year ago (letter #568) and was floored when I read your letter this morning, because there was a lot of the same The Helper and the One Who Needs Help dynamic in me and my fiancs relationship at the time when it came to dealing with my anxiety and driving-related PTSD (FWIW, things are a LOT better now, although it took a few tough conversations to get him to see how messed up some of the stuff he was doing was.). Its a power and control thing and points to major issues that he needs to work on himself. We spent an hour together crafting a long list of things he could do for me, with me. Call 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788. Your bf is trying to make you break up with him. He wants me to exercise more, eat healthier, help out more with the cleaning, and take better care of myself. (But again, I do think its an excellent tool to help evaluate a relationship.). Then, repeat what you want him to do and make the boundary plain: its one of the downsides of having a toddler he still needs decent meals to function at anything like a survivable level. He tends to expect peoples feelings to be comprehensible and based on clear, material realities. The fact that you said, complete with arm-flailing inflatable tube-men and blinky neon arrows, Hey, your helpyness is actually making my depression worse/making it harder for me to make changes, and HE DOUBLED DOWN makes me worried and also kind of like I want to smack him with a dead fish on your behalf (Im a whitefish knight, har de har har). Despite that, I managed to meet a kindred spirit. Reasonable. . Ive also gone through some tough times with depression and needed a bit more care than I would otherwise. I generally figure that a persons issues are their own, and what they choose to do (or not) about them is their own decision. He used to love to know everything about you from the way you think and what you like your time to how it went. Weve worked hard to become partners in his health and Ive definitely made some missteps along the way. In another car. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases. Scrolling through my phone. 3) when I said, I walked for twenty minutes today! And I think thats a super sweet thing to do, because sometimes we need explicit cues from others that they care about us and arent secretly frowning at us. That there is no end in sight, no real goal. He immediately misses you. He says I'm too negative and I have no friends and I'm not self sufficient. A while later we split up, and it was unfun and shitty and also exhilarating and life changing and were both in a better place now. Youve clearly already worked out some helpful things. The Romantic Comedy You Should Watch This Valentines Day, Based On Your Zodiac Sign. He thought (for a couple of reasons) that it was a scam (as did my Dad who lent me the money to go to the course). So if your partner was discussing ending the relationship because you were depressed and not in therapy/not taking medication/not engaging in self-care, that would be a reasonable reaction. One of the signs your boyfriend has stopped making an effort is that your relationship has become one-sided, efforts are now one-sided. He likes the you in his head that he wants to shape you into being. He seems quieter than usual Your conversations are brief, and he doesn't appear to be as interested in your life anymore. I find that when one person is overly invested in helping someone else, its often an indicator that they have their own issues which theyre trying to feel better about. Husband encourages me to get exercise, by casually asking what Ive been up to and suggesting if the weather is nice and there is nothing to do, I could go for a walk. When you were sick, it was probably easy for him to get you to do what he wanted. I grew up with people who were allergic to being encouraging. I dont know what your boyfriends views on your therapist or on therapy in general are, but he might use a comment like this as evidence that your therapist clearly has no clue whats going on in your life so you should just listen to him and do everything he says. If he makes you feel like crap about yourself, then you will feel like no one else will want to be with you. He isnt saying anything because there are no rules anymore and nothing is official between the two of you. They seem impatient At all. Value to him also includes your offering of feminine energy and responsiveness, your surrender to connection moment by moment (which helps deepen your connection and renew his deep attachment to you). Validation. So I get what it feels like to see your partner unhappy and struggling. ", But It is indeed hard. Im rooting for you, LW, because this was one of the toughest ongoing issues in our relationship for a while, and I had to show him that what works as treatment for some people cant be applied to everyone broadly and without that persons permission. Just. nuanced (especially when exercise is not the only project Im undertaking at the moment.) So if your partner was reacting in line with frustration and reacting to objective, observable behaviors that contradicted therapeutic actions you had agreed to, then that could be a reasonable reaction. The thing is, it doesnt sound like he wants you to be better, despite what he says. The focus is making me incredibly uncomfortable, though. And with your wife, there may be things you can do that help, but they are probably concrete gestures. Im glad the accidentally-posted link might be of use to you, and Im sorry that youre dealing with stuff similar to Drownings letter. But, if that was all there was to it, he wouldnt be getting angry when she isnt doing those things, or dismissing and belittling her words. Get out into nature together take a day trip, if you need to. Am I the only one who says nope the fuck out of there yesterday? If you are depressed, and your partner likes and loves you, theres a real risk they too will experience some sadness that could develop into depression. And I bet if you looked at that guys life youd find plenty of ways in which he prioritizes his own comfort over a nebulous idea of personal growth, because he sees himself as Just Fine already. ), how long would you live like this? Low self-esteem. It can sometimes be really helpful to challenge yourself, whether thats to exercise more or read more or keep things cleaner around the house. There will be someone else out there who is willing to make an effort for you. Controlling guys will often immediately come on strong, which can be very flattering. But the way he goes about it is you need to exercise today. Not only is that (a) SO VERY NOT COOL, its also (b) likely reminiscent of the very types of behaviors that led to you developing those not good enough feelings in the first place. Ding! His schedule may simply become too full and leave no room for romance. He often works in the context of a committed marriage, where the couple really do want to stay together, but the skills can be used in any romantic relationship, even w/ if the goal were very clear communication rather than trying to save a marriage. He has ridiculously good boundaries, because its always clear to him who owns what. I have found a form of exercise that it tremendously good for me: I have an exercise bike that you can hook up to a tablet and plan a route on Google Streetview. 1. The problem is that if you cannot afford to pay it yourself the vehicle will eventually be repossessed so it is just a matter . He seems to be framing it as good diet and exercise will make you feel better rather than be thinner but I wonder if the latter is his true goal here. Absolutely. Leave now. Exercise doesnt always improve my mood sometimes it just provides a distraction/occupation for me so I spend less time ruminating. Why would they do that to me?. You are the boss of you. Stop Trying to Fix Your Partner's Feelings Kyle Benson Instead of trying to change or fix the feelings of the person you love, focus on connecting with them. If it was, hed be asking you how he can help you heal, not telling you how to heal for him. Do yourself a favor. Terrified. Don't put any extra effort into those who drain you. Thank you so much. Heh). Which is precisely what he sounds like. Go on a hike and pack a picnic. short and sweet? http://fathom.lib.uchicago.edu/1/77777760800/. I'd always known that my boyfriend was a bit insecure due to his previous partners cheating on him, but I never realized how often I would text him during the day to let him know who I was with, what I was doing, where I was, and other small things. Realize that you cannot change your partner's behavior. Dude wants to deliver improved nutrition for the vulnerable? Expressing that anger towards the situation? Apologise, and never say that to me again. If he reacts poorly, or if LW feels unable to give advice because he claims that means theyre unsupportive (an only-to-real double standard), then that is key information and likely points to the impending doom of the relationship. Walking is brilliant (assuming you have the spoons and physical ability to do it) its gentler on your joints than a lot of other cardio, you dont need special clothing, and its free. I feel you. There's no excuse for a relationship where one person does all the initiating, it means the other party is either disinterested or being suffocated by someone who wants a lot more interaction than they do. The Captain makes some good points about transitioning from one kind of relationship to another, but there are some really worrying bits, here. Depression is a mix of the chemical/biological and the situational, while youre working to treat the illness and silence the mean scripts from your Jerkbrain, you might find great improvements in your lifeif you freed yourself from a constant external source of criticism. You know that cartoon with godzilla and the hornets and the nope-ing retreat back to the sea. I dont even support parents doing that with kids, where a certain degree of molding is part of the role. It makes taking care of ourselves seem hard, even impossible on some days. When I was unhappy with the way her behaviour impacted me, our living space, or our relationship I saw the fact she wouldnt do the easy, obvious things I told her she ought to as indications that she wasnt actually committed to her claims or our life together. He would say, We really need to work on your sense of adventure and getting you to be more open to new experiences. He always said we, as though this was a joint project. These are some questions many women ask themselves when they find themselves in this situation. Try Meetup.com, a class, finding an exercise buddy who is at your level and who likes to do the same stuff you like, volunteering. I just sit there with a BMI of 40 and a face like this . There are people out there who will see you for how bright and funny and reasonable and cool you are. It was tough (and frankly weird) for a bit, but he stopped and were fine. The Teaser Trailer For Daisy Jones & The Six Just DroppedHeres Everything We Know So Far, Signs You Lack Self-Love (And How To Develop It), The Best Relationship Advice No One Ever Told You, 6 Things To Stop Doing If You Want To Find Love. Do you still respect each others autonomy and understand that help is there to be offered and accepted but cant be forced? If you are an academic assigning my posts in your courses, Id appreciate an email with a copy of the relevant syllabus/assignment for my records/CV. Basically, we are asking each other for the kind of support they want, not necessarily what we ourselves naturally would do. I have many fond memories of him. OK, so you took a walk instead of doing the cardio class; thats not great, but its a whole lot better than nothing is a way to keep score. You know that he is flirting with those other girls, even if you cant see him do it. That doesnt. We both are very logic- and reason-focused people, but hes come to the conclusion that, if she just does these things, I wont have to deal with her being depressed.. Not. But I know we never get the whole story with these letters. Kindness. And he gets a positive comment from me every time I am aware. Its really easy to end up with similarly dodgy partners. They are not partner micro-managing tools. OTOH, healthy eating and exercise are also always promoted as the big pop-cultural panaceas for depression and are indeed helpful tools for some people, sometimes, but unfortunately mesh far too well with the cultural meme that people are only sick (or fat) because theyre lazy, greedy or just Not Trying Hard Enough. Dear LW, Then perhaps from there they can move towards leaving. Hell yes! Some guys want to be in a serious relationship; others dont. And when he lost a bunch of weight as a side effect of a new medication, suddenly all of his insecurities about it were transferred to passive-aggressively fatshaming me. Both of the above. He then said that he was only trying to make her into a better person. Do you want to be like my mum, self esteem completely destroyed, fleeing an abusive 30 year relationship from someone who always thought you were not good enough? Enter your email address to follow this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email. Is he making home-cooked, healthy meals? Emotions *exist* and have a massive effect on our wellbeing, emotions dont just disappear if you have assessed them and decided that logically you should not be feeling that way (at least mine sure dont! If youre not into cooking, make a weekly date to try new restaurants in the neighborhood. This, again, is part of why we dont have a good relationship). Whether it was a lot or a little, it will carry you to tomorrow. LW, whatever you chose to do today is enough. And not, like, a GOOD parent, either. Being badgered about food choices and exercise choices isnt going to help the LW build good habits. Your partner becomes angry not in response to specific things that they observe, but by broad elements that they infer. Why do I get the feeling sometimes that an LW to Captain Awkward is actually just asking for permission to dump their partner? The point is, I actively try to be a better partner and to listen to what he wants, and not just do to him what I think he needs. He used to love celebrating special occasions like birthdays, anniversaries or any important date in your life; but now these days seem to be forgotten too. In any case what was most helpful to me when I was trying to decide what to do about my then bf monitoring my exercise and how I acted and what I wore, was look at those things and all the other things we did together (which by that point was not much) and ask if this person seemed to like me. The thing to watch for is a change in how they behave. He Stopped Calling. Second, this worries me, the idea that his view is likely if she just does these things, I wont have to deal with her being depressed.. Maybe that makes a good benchmark if someones trying to sort out the real from the fake. Did you exercise today?Yep, it was great!What did you do?Why are you asking me? There can even be some of both this and the previous issue mixed together, because real people (even ones who use lots of reason) can have conflicting and complex emotions. One of the best dates I ever went on was to a cheap jazz concert in my neighborhood; we danced the night away and ended up as great friends. and exercise a few years ago. If he comes back, then great but if not, dont be surprised or disappointed. I only do that in ways that SHE has approved, and that weve mutually decided would be comfortable and appropriate for me to do. And holy crap, the Silent Treatment? Im quite a fan of your usage of Ricardo Cabeza here, it took me a moment to get it but when i did i nearly fell out of my chair. Fun schmun, he can chop thirty onions and keep his mouth shut. I had already tried eight bazillion types of tea. Keep my mouth shut about the chips? Dont be accusatory or judgmental when you do this. Youre a real person. When your partner stops maintaining your relationship, that spark can easily die out as dissatisfaction and resentment builds up." Here are seven gestures that your partner may stop doing if your. I think a lot of it springs from an idea that partners make decisions together and tackle projects together, and theyve made the mistake of mis categorizing you as a project. If you love someone, why are you punishing them? My partner of 3 1/2 years has depression and anxiety, and sometimes I act as her monitor/coach/support person in some ways. Like the Captain said, if it helps you have the conversation, totally go for it. If Im down in the dumps, a few minutes skipping rope can make me feel better as can a cup of ginger tea instead of reaching for a soda BUT these are temporary fixes and no substitute for dealing with the real issues. I think doing the opposite of that can also be helpful. The difference between this dude and the dudes I know, though, is that when the dudes I know were told to stuff a sock in it because they were coming across all doomy and demanding, they did. It seems to be the get-out-of-jail-free card for everyones tactless remarks and dumbass behaviour. And whats wrong with your alphabet, here, let me prioritize those letters for you. First, he says its the stupidest thing hes ever heard. In the most recent invention, a group of university students in China created a kissing device that lets you make out with your partner from across the seas, country, or city. The ones who wont should be encouraged to date one another whenever possible. Also, for what its worth, I hate the Im so logical, therefore I know everything and Im right all the time thing. It sounds like you two have a chance. Most men and women are very different, and relating to someone who is very different from you takes patience. Anyway, enough about me. And he tried to change me, too (although I was worse): he was always trying to get me to relax more, to spend less time working and instead build my schedule around him. Then, repeat what you want him to do and make the boundary plain: I hear you, but I want to be clear: I dont want you to do that anymore., Please stop correcting me and advising me., I appreciate all the help and support youve given me, but I actually need to navigate this on my own., I dont like it when you tell me what to do., The Silent Treatment is really not cool., Youre not the boss of how I eat or exercise, and I think its going to be healthier going forward if you stop monitoring that stuff and if I stop reporting it to you as if you are my nutritionist or trainer.*, I dont need you to change me or to be right about this, I just need you to love me and trust me to do the right thing for myself., I realize I was in bad shape for a while, but as I try to get better, Id like it if you would stop monitoring all these things about me and just found a way to enjoy my company., You may be right about that, but Id still like to handle this on my own without your input., I know you want to help, but I would like to set a boundary around advice-giving. Unfortunately, who he is now does XYZ, and is unlikely to stop, so theyre both unhappy. Reasonable. I would say the effect of increased exercise on my mental health is . In high school, I was shy, introverted, and had low self confidence and poor social skills due to a history of being bullied in junior high and middle grade. Take care of yourself. I hope you can use some of these scripts to talk to your boyfriend, and that he can truly listen to what you are saying. Then, at the end of any date, I got this huge guilt trip if I didnt show gratitude. I dont know if that makes sense? Dynamitochondria, I really have nothing useful to add to that link, except I have been there, and it sucks. I think its easy for us to say DTMFA because we know none of the other persons good qualities. So hes trying to use your own recovery to manipulate you youre not just exercising because you want to, youre exercising because HE wants you to in the way he wants. Theres a lot of power in taking full ownership of the decision to take more autonomy over your choices. 5 Be Friendly Some exes are best handled by treating them in a friendly manner. He never seemed to understand that these personality traits conflictedor at least, they conflicted in me, for us. Another script LW may want to try: How does this affect you? In the examples in the letter, the answer would probably be not at all which should make the boundary more clear. All the logical, reasonable, skeptical partners that the LWs describe are always trying to use their logic to make other people feel like crap about what they feel. 4. Mmmm. 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